No relationship is easy. It takes hard work. While you may love your partner, there is more to being in a relationship besides saying I love you. You need to show your partner that you care about them. When you show how much you care, your relationship can only thrive. So get started on a stronger, more healthier relationship by following these 15 simple tips.
1. Go With The Ups and Downs
Every relationship has its high and low points. Hard work is key if you want the relationship to work. If you accept the highs and the lows and get though them together, your relationship is not only strengthened but the love you have for each other grows. You may have to deal with your stresses alone but when you come together in the end, it will be all worth it. Just have some faith. Trust that everything will work out in the end.
Fighting and crying may become a part of your life. Take a break from each other for a little while. Think about all the good qualities about the person. Think about why you fell in love in the first place. In the end when you come back to each other, you'll know why you love them and be able to fix what went wrong. The anger and sadness will disappear, and you'll be left with nothing but love for each other.
2. Forgiveness and Forgetting
Forgive and forget is a part of any relationship. Holding onto the past won't help anything. The last thing you want to do is bring your baggage into a new relationship. You can express you love for your partner by letting the past go and focusing on the future with your new love. It will be a weight off both of your shoulders. You'll both be healthier in the long run by moving forward and not dwelling in the past.
You need to decide if forgiving and forgetting what has happened in this relationship is worth it. In the long run will you both benefit from these actions. If there is too much damage within the relationship to forgive, then it's time to move on. There are some things you can't forget but when they start piling up, it may just be healthier for you to leave the relationship with your emotional sanity intact. Do what's best for you in this situation. You don't deserve constant chaos in this cycle of forgive and forget so know when to let go.
3. Accept Each Other's Beliefs
Men are from Mars and women are from venus. You both have different views when it comes to relationships. So what do you do? Talk about what you believe a healthy relationship is. Come to a consensus. You both show love by coming together as a couple with your beliefs and finding some common ground.
Men and women have different beliefs when it comes to love. It's important to learn from each other on how you want to feel loved. Tell your partner you love them, do something without being asked, give gifts just because, spend time together, and intimacy are some of the ways you can express your love for one another. Figure out which way your partner prefers and show them everyday how much they mean to you. Your beliefs may be different when it comes to love but in the end you will both come out the other side a much stronger couple. You will be a lot happier, that's for sure.
4. Speak Up
Communication is essential in any relationship. If you're not heard in your relationship, speak up. No one else can do it for you. Your partner needs to know what you need. They can't read your mind. The key is to be honest and open minded because saying I love you is meeting each others' needs.
They'll never know what you want if you're lips aren't moving. If you're partner is not letting you speak, this is a whole different story. If you have the ability to say how you're feeling, it's important to do so. You can't ever move forward, and you'll stay in the same place if you don't talk about your concerns about the relationship. You may be afraid to lose your partner or end up alone, but these are not good enough reasons to not speak your opinion. Talking is the key to your future as well as a healthier relationship because it can solve your problems sooner rather than later.
5. Disagree If Need Be
You're different than your partner, and you will have disagreements. It's a part of every relationship. Fighting on a daily basis may become routine. The key is to accept each other's differences and accept that you will disagree. At the end of the day you still love each other. That's all that matters in the end.
Don't ever go to bed with your disagreements. Nothing is being resolved. They will only fester and come out in words thrown at each other that you can't take back. When disagreements aren't resolved, you're relationship with each other as well as the people around you will suffer. Dragging your family and friends into taking sides is the worst thing any couple can do. It creates more chaos, so you need to compromise and just accept each other's differences and respect each other.
6. Always Question
Being afraid to ask questions means being afraid to open yourself up to someone. If you have a question about your partner, ask them. It is the key to understanding them a little bit more. Saying I love you means learning about your partner's behavior and growing more as a couple. You're can only move forward this way. When you understand each other, you begin to see why you fell in love with your partner in the first place.
You may be afraid of the answers but how else will you truly know yourself and your partner. If you want to exist with your partner and build a life with them, it's important to know who they are. What do they like? What do they not like? How do they feel? When you know your partner and your partner knows you, you can both live in harmony.
7. Deal With Problems When They Come
Everyone has problems in a relationship. So what do you do to solve them?The last thing you want to do is put your problems on the back burner because they will fester overtime. Face your problems like adults and you will have less conflict in the future. When you understand how your partner is feeling, they feel loved. When you deal with your problems together instead of apart, you grow closer as a couple.
Your problems can only keep piling on top of each other if you don't acknowledge them. Everything is not fine, and it won't help your relationship if you pretend. It can be an overwhelming way to live, but you don't have to live this way. If you feel that your problems are just too much to deal with, you may be looking at breaking up or a divorce in your future. This is the last thing you want. Solve each problem as it comes if you want your relationship to be stronger moving forward.
8. Listening Is Key
This is important in any relationship you have. You're really saying I love you when you listen to your partner talk about their worries and concerns without being judged. They need you to see things from their point and view. Don't ignore them because it makes them feel like they're not worth it in your eyes. When you understand your partner, they know you're their to support them no matter what. It's the best feeling in the world.
When your partner is talking to you, it doesn't feel good when you turn on the TV and pretend to listen by nodding your head. You're being disrespectful and not in tune with your partner's needs. You wonder why you're arguing so often, well this might give you a clue. Listening is the key to your happiness. When you listen, they listen to you as well. You feel like what you have to say matters to them, and it does because they love you.
9. Fun As A Couple
Fun is essential in a relationship. It may even make your relationship more exciting. Finding out what your partner likes to do to have a good time and taking an interest will bring you closer as a couple. When they do the same for you, that is saying I love you. You care about their happiness. Together you can incorporate what you and your partner think is fun into your daily lives.
Date night is one way to have fun. Put away your phones and frustrations about work and concentrate on being together. Let loose with the person who knows you the most. Whether you're spending time at home with a romantic dinner for two or going to a carnival, your focus will be on each other. You can even recreate your first day or try something new and exciting together. You're having fun because you're with each other and not because of what you're doing.
10. Be Close
Learn how to stay close to each other throughout the years because it can be hard when kids come into the picture. You have to make your partner a priority. Say I love you by making it through the things that keep you apart. The reality of your life may send you and your partner drifting away from each other but the key is to always find your way back to each other no matter the cost. If you're relationship is strong, you'll always find a way to be close. The closer you are to your partner, the more powerful your connection is as a couple.
To keep your relationship hot it's important to be intimate. Hand holding and a kiss before bed are some ways to be close. It's not always about sex because sex isn't always about love. Messages, a kiss goodbye, and a kiss hello are other ways to show your partner that they matter, and that you want to be with your partner. These routines may seem trivial now, but they will keep your intimacy alive and well in the relationship. Letting your partner know you care through intimacy matters and can only strengthen your relationship.
11. Stay In Tune With Your Dreams And Goals
Having dreams and goals are important in any relationship. Keep your partner in the loop when it comes to your dreams and goals in life. They wanted to feel included in your life. It's important to share your life with each other. When they feel more involved, you are saying I love you because you want to share them with your partner. You want your partner to be a part of your dreams and goals.
If your partner's support is non-existent, then maybe they're not the person for you. Your growth as a couple will be stunted if your dreams are not taken into account. It means you don't care about them as individual and as a person. Resentment is a possibility, and you'll just live together the rest of your life hating each other. You don't want to live this way. You'll both only be happier if you're pursuing your dreams together because your dreams are just as important as your relationship.
Apologizing, it happens a lot in any relationship. Admitting when you're wrong is a humbling experience in a relationship. It's not the most easiest thing to do. Together you can overcome anything. You will both be happier in the long run, trust me. Saying I love you means putting aside your pride and apologizing so you can put all of it behind you and move forward in your relationship.
If you can't admit your faults in a relationship, there's no way it can continue. If you're wrong, you need to say you're sorry. It's so simple, but couples make a big thing out of it. No one's perfect in a relationship and admitting when you're wrong isn't the end of the world. It may end up making you feel vulnerable in the moment, but that's what a relationship is all about. It will be worth it in the end because you can grow from it.
13. Respect Yourself And What You're Worth
Your self respect and self worth is vital to being in a healthy relationship. It's important to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are. Being secure in yourself as a human being is a great way to start a relationship. The last thing you want to have is emotional baggage. When you love yourself, you can love your partner. Nothing says I love you more then including your partner in your path to finding your best self.
You need to learn how to be an individual before you can learn to be in a relationship. When you don't feel respected or worth from your partner, you need to have enough self respect and self worth to leave the relationship. You have to know you're better than how your partner is treating you. Before you even start a relationship, you need to become secure in who you are completely. If you both come into the relationship with insecurities and other problems, chaos is bound to ensue. Know yourself and know your partner and your relationship can only blossom.
14. Cooperate As A Couple
Relationships are a constant negotiation. Not to mention it's a lot of work. Work together in your relationship to show how much you love each other. Don't expect your partner to take over all the responsibility of the household while you're way. Do something out of the norm with your partner to let them know you value and care about them. Saying I love you means knowing how to cooperate as a couple.
A relationship should give 100% from each person. When you're not giving your all to making your relationship work, then you might as well quit now. Learn from each other what you want and compromise. Being happy requires you to come together and make your relationship work like a well oiled machine. If you can't compromise on anything, the relationship is doomed to fail. Make sure your voice is being heard because that's the only way things will change for the better in any relationship.
15. Recognize Unhealthy Relationships
Abuse is never ok. No one has the right to lay their hands on you. You need to realize when your involved in a relationship that is no good for you. Do you just keeping picking the wrong partner? Figure out why this behavior exists within you and change your behavior. Saying I love you means knowing when to let the unhealthy partner go and realizing that you love yourself enough to find someone who is good for you and deserves your love.
Are the bruises and hurtful words worth the pain? No, it's never ok. You may not want to be alone, but it's too dangerous to stay with a person who has the potential to not just hurt you verbally but physically as well. Know your worth and get out of the relationship before death becomes inevitable. Get help if you need to, just don't stay and suffer abuse in silence. Your new relationship will be better because you know what to look for next time, and you know you deserve to be treated with love and respect.
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It's likely that the women in your day to day life are pretty "normal" in appearance. So when you see someone whose appearance differs from what you expect it to be, it can be kind of a shock. The ladies in the following slideshow are definitely far from average. Some of these women spent thousands of dollars on plastic surgery, tattoos, or body piercings. Others are born with strange birth defects such as excessive facial hair, a gigantic butt or even an 8 inch tongue. See for yourself!
Lauren Williams: 4 Foot Long Legs
Lauren Williams has the longest-known legs in the United States, with her eye-catching limbs measuring an incredible 49 inches from hip to heel. Lauren's height and long-legged genes can be attributed to her family as her father, mother and twin sisters are all 6ft or taller.
She has US size 11 feet (UK size 10), and revealed that she can find it tricky to buy clothes that fit. When modelling, single Lauren - who has worked on campaigns for global brands such as Nike - does everything from sports and fitness to high fashion and swimwear.
Having played volleyball in college, as well as being extremely active, Lauren also enjoys shooting sporty campaigns. As well as modelling, Lauren works as an educator at a children's museum in Houston and enjoys travelling. When out and about, her striking looks and long limbs mean she gets comments about her legs on a daily basis.
Pixee Fox: Dangerously Small Waist
Swedish born Pixee Fox had already spent more than $80,000 on plastic surgery attempting to sculpt the perfect hourglass figure. But now she has taken her obsession even further by having 6 of her lower ribs removed - so she can shrink her waist to a record-breaking 14 inches. Pixee, from Sweden, said: "People often come up to me and say, "don't take this the wrong way, but you look like a cartoon" - but for me that's a compliment, that's what I want to achieve.
With 6 of her lower ribs removed, Pixee's lower internal organs, including the liver, have lost some of their natural protection - but she isn't worried. She said: "Before if I was in a car crash I would normally break my ribs. If that happened now I'm probably going to break my spleen instead. In total she has had four rhinoplasties costing $14,000; four breast augmentations of 200cc, 525cc, 800cc and 1400cc costing $28,500; two rounds of liposuction at $5,000; two upper eyelid surgeries at $6,000; a labiaplasty costing $4,000; a Brazilian butt lift at $9,000 and cool-sculpting, cheek injections, and lip injections at about $12,000.
Bethany Hamilton: One Armed Pro Surfer
Bethany Meilani Hamilton-Dirks is an American professional surfer who survived a 2003 shark attack in which her left arm was bitten off, but ultimately returned to-and was victorious in-professional surfing. On October 31, 2003 Hamilton, aged 13 at the time, went for a morning surf along Tunnels Beach, Kauai, with best friend Alana Blanchard, Alana's father, Holt, and brother Byron. Around 7:30 a.m., with numerous turtles in the area, she was lying on her surfboard with her left arm dangling in the water, when a 14-foot tiger shark attacked her, severing her left arm just below the shoulder.
Despite the trauma of the incident, Hamilton was determined to return to surfing. Three weeks after the incident, she returned to her board. Initially, she adopted a custom-made board that was longer and slightly thicker than standard and had a handle for her right arm, making it easier to paddle, and she learned to kick more to make up for the loss of her left arm. After teaching herself to surf with one arm, on January 10, 2004, she entered a major competition. She now uses standard competitive performance short-boards. The broken surfboard that Hamilton was riding during the attack is on display at the California Surf Museum
Mayra Hills: World's Largest Fake Breasts
Mayra Hills - also known as Beshine - measures at 59-28-36 and says she's the proud owner of the world's largest fake breasts. And it's not hard to believe her claim to fame, considering each of her breasts have 10,000 cc of saline implants and weigh 20 pounds a piece! As you can imagine, it's difficult for Beshine, who wears a size 32Z bra, to find clothes that fit, so the German-born woman has a lot of her items custom-made.
But bra shopping isn't her only woe. She can no longer tie her own shoes and has run into trouble when she's knocked things over with her chest - but it appears she's satisfied with her body, troubles and all. "Some people maybe think the sheer size of my t-ts bring too many handicaps in my everyday life, but hey, having big boob problems is amazing," she wrote on her blog.
Anastasiya Shpagina: Real Life Anime Girl
It's official, this real-life anime trend has gotten completely out of hand. Hardly a day goes by that we don't stumble upon some photos of girls going to any lengths in order to look like real live anime characters. Today's example, Anastasiya Shpagina, an Ukrainian girl who has even taken a Japanese name - Fukkacumi. 19-year-old Anastasiya (Nastya) Shpagina has been called "the new Barbie" by national news outlets, but she later revealed she's striving to become a real-life Japanese anime character, not a doll. She even posted "I am not like a doll, a doll is like me."
Apparently, Nastya has been passionate about makeup even as a young child, always experimenting with it in the mirror. Over time she also developed a thing for Japanese cartoons and it was only a matter of time before she started using her make-up artist skills to transform herself into a real-life anime girl. But just putting on makeup wasn't enough to attain that coveted look, so she decided to lose weight in order to seem more genuine. At 1.58-meters-tall, Anastasiya weighs just 39 kilos and is trying to lose one more in order to look just right.
Chanel Tapper: World's Longest Tongue
The longest female tongue measures 9.75 cm (3.8 in) from the tip to the middle of lip and was achieved by Chanel Tappe on 29 September 2010. Chanel, from Houston, US, shot to fame aged 13 when she was spotted sticking out her monster tongue in a YouTube video. In September Guinness invited Chanel to Los Angeles where they measured her tongue and she narrowly beat two other female contenders to the record.
She said: "I have always been silly and goofy. I love sticking my tongue out at people. I started doing that back in school. I've never had a problem with having a long tongue, it's just fun." Chanel now has set her sights set on Hollywood after finishing her studies. She said: "I'd love to be in a movie. I'm certainly pretty dramatic, so I think I could have the acting gift. "Really, I'd love to meet Adam Sandler, he's my favorite."
Sarah Massey: World's Largest Butt
Sarah Massey would be just another 33-year-old mother-of-two from Chicago - if it weren't for the fact that she also happens to have the world's biggest butt. Though not officially recognized by the prudes at Guinness, Massey's massive 7-foot wide keister requires a pair of 10XL trousers that would comfortably fit all of the Kardashian sisters combined.
Massey insists the condition that resulted in her museum-sized bubble butt is hereditary - "there's nothing I can do about it," she says - but that her love of ice cream certainly contributed to its maintenance. Massey would still like to lose some weight, but says she now has a new-found appreciation for her natural assets, and fervently defends them against anyone who calls them fake. "Some people can't believe one person can have this much butt," she told Barcroft. "Because I've got a relatively small frame on top they say, 'that can't be real.' I carry this weight with me all the time, everywhere I go, it's definitely not fake. Big booties are just in my blood."
Zlata: Extreme Flexibility
Russian-born former gymnast Zlata, 29, posed in leather and lingerie to adopt a series of poses that seem to defy every law of biology. Zlata, who now lives in Germany, is able to create astounding shapes with her body and is so flexible she can cram herself into a 50cm square box. One of her favorite acts is to bend backwards at a 90 degree angle, so the back half of her hands touch her feet and she can also peer through her own legs from behind.
Zlata's gift of flexibility was discovered when she was four years old and by six she was training as a contortionist at a circus school. She has a rare condition which makes all her tendons extremely pliable, which helps in her profession. The former gymnast now spends most of her day working out and training for shows around the world. In 2011 she set the Guinness World Record for the most beer bottles opened in a minute using only your feet.
Kim Goodman: Eyeball Protrusion
Kim Goodman is a woman who is able to pop her eyes out of her eye sockets by 12 millimeters (0.47 inches). She holds the world record for the farthest eyeball protrusion. She lives in Chicago, Illinois. She discovered her eyeball popping talent one day when she was hit on the head with a hockey mask. Her eyeballs popped out much further than usual and ever since that day she could pop them out on cue, as well as when she yawns.
She has appeared on the Late Show with David Letterman. In 2004, Goodman was included by Guinness World Records in their 50th anniversary list of top ten "feats" of all time. Kim originally had the record for being able to extend her eye balls beyond her eye sockets by 10mm. This was matched a few years by a new contender, but when Kim was re-measured she found she could now reach 12mm - breaking her own record and keeping the title.
Natalia Partyka: One Armed Table Tennis Champ
Natalia Partyka (born 27 July 1989) is a Polish table tennis player. Born without a right hand and forearm, she participates in competitions for able-bodied athletes as well as in competitions for athletes with disabilities. Partyka reached the last 32 of the London 2012 Olympic women's table tennis. Partyka began playing table tennis at the age of seven. She won her first international table tennis medal in 1999 at the disabled World Championships. At the age of 11, she competed at the 2000 Summer Paralympics in Sydney, becoming the world's youngest ever Paralympian. In 2004, she won a gold medal in the singles event and silver in the team event at the Athens Paralympics.
Partyka competed for Poland both the 2008 Summer Olympics and the 2008 Summer Paralympics in Beijing - one of only two athletes to do so, the other being Natalie du Toit in swimming. They were her third Paralympic Games, and her first Olympics. Competing in class 10 at the Beijing Paralympics, she won gold by defeating China's Fan Lei by three sets to nil. In 2008, she won a gold medal in the singles event and a silver in the team event at the Beijing Paralympics, repeating her Athens Paralympics result.
Supatra Sasuphan: World's Hairiest Girl
Her nicknames may include "wolf girl" and "monkey face". But 11-year-old Thai girl Supatra Sasuphan today insisted that she was after being officially recognised as the world's hairiest girl. Although the schoolgirl from Bangkok has faced merciless teasing at school, Supatra says being given a Guinness World Record for her hair has helped her become extremely popular. "I'm very happy to be in the Guinness World Records! A lot of people have to do a lot to get in," she said. "All I did was answer a few questions and then they gave it to me."
Supatra is one of just 50 known sufferers of Ambras Syndrome - caused by a faulty chromosome - to be documented since the Middle Ages. Before the disease was understood, sufferers were branded "werewolves." She has thick hair growing over her face, ears, arms, legs and back. Even laser treatment has failed to stop the hair growth. But while most sufferers have been shunned, Supatra has gradually been embraced by her community, and became a popular and outgoing child.
Jasmine Tridevil: Woman With 3 Breasts
There's really no other way to put this so we're just going to dive in: Meet Jasmine Tridevil. She has three breasts. Tridevil (no that's not her real name, but that's what she wants to go by) is a 21-year-old licensed massage therapist and die-hard Criss Angel fan from Florida who decided to undergo a shocking and controversial $20,000 surgery to add a third breast to her chest.
Tridevil also stated that she's hoping to bank a reality show from this, and has already put the wheels in motion to make something happen. "I was making really good money [being a licensed massage therapist] but now I'm trying to star in a reality show instead. I don't like that job," she shared, and later added, "My whole dream is to get this show on MTV. I hired a camera crew individually, so I'm the producer of this show right now."
Lyudmila Titchenkova: World's Longest Neck
Lyudmila Titchenkova is a 16-year-old living in the city of Nikolaev, Ukraine. After she turned 10, Lyudmila's parents noticed that their daughter's body began developing at an accelerated growth rate. She was taller and had longer arms than other children her age, but of particular concern was the length of her neck and abnormal curvature of her spine.
As it got to the point where Lyudmila began feeling embarrassed to go out because of her appearance, her parents took her to the hospital, where she was diagnosed with Marfan Syndrome, a rare genetic disorder of the connective tissue that can affect many parts of the body, most often the heart, blood vessels, bones, joints and eyes. In Lyudmila's case, the disorder affected the connective tissue in her spine, causing it to curve at an angle of 30 degrees. This seems to be a rather uncommon symptom of the disorder, which usually affect people's arms, legs and fingers. After undergoing corrective surgery and extensive rehabilitation to straighten her spine, Lyudmila can now live normally and says she wants to study for her future without letting herself be affected by her disorder.
Abigail and Brittany Hensel: Girl With Two Heads
Abigail Loraine "Abby" Hensel and Brittany Lee Hensel (born March 7, 1990) are dicephalic parapagus twins, meaning that they are conjoined twins, each of whom has a separate head, but whose bodies are joined. They are highly symmetric for conjoined twins, giving the appearance of having just a single body without marked variation from normal proportion. In fact, several vital organs are doubled up; each twin has a separate heart, stomach, spine, lungs, and spinal cord.
In conversation, the twins are clearly distinct persons, with distinct likes and dislikes. Their preferences in food, clothing color, etc., differ. Some of their clothes are altered by their seamstress so that they have two separate necklines in order to emphasize their individuality. They will usually have separate meals, but sometimes will share a single meal for the sake of convenience (e.g. each taking a bite of the same hamburger). Abby is better at mathematics, and Brittany is better at writing. For tasks such as responding to email, they type and respond as one, anticipating each other's feelings with little verbal communication between them.
Natasha Veruschka: Sword Swallower
Natasha Veruschka has the world record for most swords swallowed simultaneously by a female. She swallowed 13 swords, each at least 38.1 cm (15 in) long, at the 3rd Annual Sideshow Gathering and Sword Swallowers Convention in Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania, USA, on 3 September 2004. Natasha was born in India of white russian and british heritage. She has lived, studied, and performed her art around the world and also speaks several different languages.
Natasha now lives in New York City. She is an amazing performer who uses many different types of swords in her act or as she likes to say "Swords On The Menu." The swords on the menu are - "The Red devil" 29 inches long, "The Big Sword" 27 1/2 inches long, "The Bradshaw Sword" 25 inches long, "The Sai Weapons" two 24 inch long eight-sided weapons of steel. Natasha trained with a "Sai Master" in order to use them in her act. Also on the menu is the unbelieveable "Sword Sandwich" where she swallows 13-22 inch long swords simultaneously.